When my Marriage was Done I Knew I’d have to Deal my Inner Loser

You know those not-so-little quirks, the ones others don’t necessarily notice, but blare like loud obnoxious horns in your psyche when you least expect it? ... I have historically deemed myself a LOSER. Yes, deep in my being the loser soundtrack is playing. When I realized my marriage was done, I knew I would have to deal with this debilitating thought-feeling.
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Looking for “Home” after Separation or Divorce

As with any significant change in life circumstances, when you leave your long-term relationship, you move through distinct stages on the road to reclamation and recovery... You may have to contend with different emotional challenges, depending on who did the leaving, but in the end it’s all the same.
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When my Ex Met Someone New my Security felt Threatened – Yuck!

Just when I think I got this … When I spoke to my ex on the phone recently, he took the opportunity to tell me he’d met someone - just the week before. He was a little clumsy about how he told me, letting me know that it wouldn’t change anything for a while. Wouldn’t change anything for a while!? Fear! Aloneness! All that arose again.
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