How Knowing your Top 5 Values Can Help you Stabilize

However you initially cope with the separation from your spouse, you are much more emotionally vulnerable than you are likely to realize at first. It makes sense. You left your union to establish your own course ... It may take a while to understand that you need to protect your energy and your personal space in ways you might not have needed to when married. Knowing your Values helps clarify ... who you will let in and who may not pass this way again.
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When my Marriage was Done I Knew I’d have to Deal my Inner Loser

You know those not-so-little quirks, the ones others don’t necessarily notice, but blare like loud obnoxious horns in your psyche when you least expect it? ... I have historically deemed myself a LOSER. Yes, deep in my being the loser soundtrack is playing. When I realized my marriage was done, I knew I would have to deal with this debilitating thought-feeling.
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When my Ex Met Someone New my Security felt Threatened – Yuck!

Just when I think I got this … When I spoke to my ex on the phone recently, he took the opportunity to tell me he’d met someone - just the week before. He was a little clumsy about how he told me, letting me know that it wouldn’t change anything for a while. Wouldn’t change anything for a while!? Fear! Aloneness! All that arose again.
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Where is He When You Need Him? Old Habits Die Hard

When you and your ex were a couple it was natural for some life tasks to be "assigned" to the person with the better skills in that area. It certainly makes life easier, but it also creates potential weakness in yourself over time. You become dependent on that person to handle that thing.
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