How Knowing your Top 5 Values Can Help you Stabilize

However you initially cope with the separation from your spouse, you are much more emotionally vulnerable than you are likely to realize at first. It makes sense. You left your union to establish your own course ... It may take a while to understand that you need to protect your energy and your personal space in ways you might not have needed to when married. Knowing your Values helps clarify ... who you will let in and who may not pass this way again.
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When my Marriage was Done I Knew I’d have to Deal my Inner Loser

You know those not-so-little quirks, the ones others don’t necessarily notice, but blare like loud obnoxious horns in your psyche when you least expect it? ... I have historically deemed myself a LOSER. Yes, deep in my being the loser soundtrack is playing. When I realized my marriage was done, I knew I would have to deal with this debilitating thought-feeling.
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Looking for “Home” after Separation or Divorce

As with any significant change in life circumstances, when you leave your long-term relationship, you move through distinct stages on the road to reclamation and recovery... You may have to contend with different emotional challenges, depending on who did the leaving, but in the end it’s all the same.
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Random Acts of Kindness Not Just for Strangers

Like the term "self-empowerment," this whole Self-love thing is being talked about all over the place. But what is it, and why does it matter? It's about how we think and talk about ourselves, and also what we do with and for ourselves. How we think and talk about ourselves, is probably the most critical.
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If I Put Myself First …

If I put myself first I will disappear, will be forgotten. I will disappoint the people I care about most. They will be hurt by my withdrawal, and exile me from their life. The guilt will overwhelm me. I will be alone and isolated, a forced imprisonment kind of feeling.
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