What does Security Mean to You? Do you Know?

Security questions are a big deal in later life divorce, especially for women... I was recently encouraged to go on a “vision quest” to take look at what security means to me. It arose after I shared experiencing discomfort when I contemplated having NO credit card debt. It was a similar feeling when I contemplated the day of divorce.
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Were you under the Influence of Romantiganda?

Breaking the covenant is especially difficult because the promise of Until Death do Us Part is meant to mean physical death of one of the partners. When our souls call us to something else before that event, when the natural arc of the relationship is coming to an end, we don’t easily recognize what is actually happening so we tend to get very grumbly. We often get caught in the blame game. The problem arises when you get stuck in blaming “him” on the way out and long after the marriage ends.
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How Knowing your Top 5 Values Can Help you Stabilize

However you initially cope with the separation from your spouse, you are much more emotionally vulnerable than you are likely to realize at first. It makes sense. You left your union to establish your own course ... It may take a while to understand that you need to protect your energy and your personal space in ways you might not have needed to when married. Knowing your Values helps clarify ... who you will let in and who may not pass this way again.
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Companionship after Divorce – Who will you Rely on Now?

When you are out on your own and navigating the early stages life after divorce you'll likely wake up one day and realize that you don't have that ‘always there’ person. This can be even more significant if you are not close to your family. There are several areas of life impacted by this fact. Today I’m focusing on one, your social community, your tribe.
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Set Boundaries Like a Mo-Fu: Shouldn’t it Be Easier?

Self-Empowerment requires a certain level of assertiveness when it comes to what we will and won't accept in our various roles in life: at home, at work and in friendship. In other words, Boundaries! Boundaries point to what we require to be our best selves, to feel sufficiently safe and secure, and do our work in the world...
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If I Put Myself First …

If I put myself first I will disappear, will be forgotten. I will disappoint the people I care about most. They will be hurt by my withdrawal, and exile me from their life. The guilt will overwhelm me. I will be alone and isolated, a forced imprisonment kind of feeling.
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