Is Spousal Support Weakening your Resolve?

When it comes to money, women have been trained to accept less, to want less, to expect less. It's changing, of course, but it's still an issue. We feel deeply ashamed when we struggle financially, especially if we’ve become dependent on our (soon-to-be) ex.
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What does Security Mean to You? Do you Know?

Security questions are a big deal in later life divorce, especially for women... I was recently encouraged to go on a “vision quest” to take look at what security means to me. It arose after I shared experiencing discomfort when I contemplated having NO credit card debt. It was a similar feeling when I contemplated the day of divorce.
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When my Ex Met Someone New my Security felt Threatened – Yuck!

Just when I think I got this … When I spoke to my ex on the phone recently, he took the opportunity to tell me he’d met someone - just the week before. He was a little clumsy about how he told me, letting me know that it wouldn’t change anything for a while. Wouldn’t change anything for a while!? Fear! Aloneness! All that arose again.
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