What does Security Mean to You? Do you Know?

Security questions are a big deal in later life divorce, especially for women... I was recently encouraged to go on a “vision quest” to take look at what security means to me. It arose after I shared experiencing discomfort when I contemplated having NO credit card debt. It was a similar feeling when I contemplated the day of divorce.
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Were you under the Influence of Romantiganda?

Breaking the covenant is especially difficult because the promise of Until Death do Us Part is meant to mean physical death of one of the partners. When our souls call us to something else before that event, when the natural arc of the relationship is coming to an end, we don’t easily recognize what is actually happening so we tend to get very grumbly. We often get caught in the blame game. The problem arises when you get stuck in blaming “him” on the way out and long after the marriage ends.
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When my Marriage was Done I Knew I’d have to Deal my Inner Loser

You know those not-so-little quirks, the ones others don’t necessarily notice, but blare like loud obnoxious horns in your psyche when you least expect it? ... I have historically deemed myself a LOSER. Yes, deep in my being the loser soundtrack is playing. When I realized my marriage was done, I knew I would have to deal with this debilitating thought-feeling.
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Beware the Ageist Within

You don't have to be old to feel the influence of arbitrary age markers. In recent conversations with a couple of women clients, issues of age and future career dreams have come to the surface. I’ve been grappling with this myself, so I thought it worth exploring. The overriding fear/worry is that it’s “too late.”
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