Is Spousal Support Weakening your Resolve?

When it comes to money, women have been trained to accept less, to want less, to expect less. It's changing, of course, but it's still an issue. We feel deeply ashamed when we struggle financially, especially if we’ve become dependent on our (soon-to-be) ex.
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Were you under the Influence of Romantiganda?

Breaking the covenant is especially difficult because the promise of Until Death do Us Part is meant to mean physical death of one of the partners. When our souls call us to something else before that event, when the natural arc of the relationship is coming to an end, we don’t easily recognize what is actually happening so we tend to get very grumbly. We often get caught in the blame game. The problem arises when you get stuck in blaming “him” on the way out and long after the marriage ends.
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Looking for “Home” after Separation or Divorce

As with any significant change in life circumstances, when you leave your long-term relationship, you move through distinct stages on the road to reclamation and recovery... You may have to contend with different emotional challenges, depending on who did the leaving, but in the end it’s all the same.
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Companionship after Divorce – Who will you Rely on Now?

When you are out on your own and navigating the early stages life after divorce you'll likely wake up one day and realize that you don't have that ‘always there’ person. This can be even more significant if you are not close to your family. There are several areas of life impacted by this fact. Today I’m focusing on one, your social community, your tribe.
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Where is He When You Need Him? Old Habits Die Hard

When you and your ex were a couple it was natural for some life tasks to be "assigned" to the person with the better skills in that area. It certainly makes life easier, but it also creates potential weakness in yourself over time. You become dependent on that person to handle that thing.
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Random Acts of Kindness Not Just for Strangers

Like the term "self-empowerment," this whole Self-love thing is being talked about all over the place. But what is it, and why does it matter? It's about how we think and talk about ourselves, and also what we do with and for ourselves. How we think and talk about ourselves, is probably the most critical.
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