Is Spousal Support Weakening your Resolve?

When it comes to money, women have been trained to accept less, to want less, to expect less. It's changing, of course, but it's still an issue. We feel deeply ashamed when we struggle financially, especially if we’ve become dependent on our (soon-to-be) ex.
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3 Simple Words of Discernment – Healthy for you or Not?

When you decide to take yourself off automatic pilot, when you build space around you by spending more time with and by yourself, you’re going to find yourself more discerning about who and what is healthy for you, or not. It happens quite naturally once you start paying attention. It's pretty simple, too. Drains  - NO Neutral - Acceptable Enhances - YES!
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How Knowing your Top 5 Values Can Help you Stabilize

However you initially cope with the separation from your spouse, you are much more emotionally vulnerable than you are likely to realize at first. It makes sense. You left your union to establish your own course ... It may take a while to understand that you need to protect your energy and your personal space in ways you might not have needed to when married. Knowing your Values helps clarify ... who you will let in and who may not pass this way again.
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Set Boundaries Like a Mo-Fu: Shouldn’t it Be Easier?

Self-Empowerment requires a certain level of assertiveness when it comes to what we will and won't accept in our various roles in life: at home, at work and in friendship. In other words, Boundaries! Boundaries point to what we require to be our best selves, to feel sufficiently safe and secure, and do our work in the world...
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If I Put Myself First …

If I put myself first I will disappear, will be forgotten. I will disappoint the people I care about most. They will be hurt by my withdrawal, and exile me from their life. The guilt will overwhelm me. I will be alone and isolated, a forced imprisonment kind of feeling.
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