Is Spousal Support Weakening your Resolve?

When it comes to money, women have been trained to accept less, to want less, to expect less. It's changing, of course, but it's still an issue. We feel deeply ashamed when we struggle financially, especially if we’ve become dependent on our (soon-to-be) ex.
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What does Security Mean to You? Do you Know?

Security questions are a big deal in later life divorce, especially for women... I was recently encouraged to go on a “vision quest” to take look at what security means to me. It arose after I shared experiencing discomfort when I contemplated having NO credit card debt. It was a similar feeling when I contemplated the day of divorce.
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3 Simple Words of Discernment – Healthy for you or Not?

When you decide to take yourself off automatic pilot, when you build space around you by spending more time with and by yourself, you’re going to find yourself more discerning about who and what is healthy for you, or not. It happens quite naturally once you start paying attention. It's pretty simple, too. Drains  - NO Neutral - Acceptable Enhances - YES!
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Were you under the Influence of Romantiganda?

Breaking the covenant is especially difficult because the promise of Until Death do Us Part is meant to mean physical death of one of the partners. When our souls call us to something else before that event, when the natural arc of the relationship is coming to an end, we don’t easily recognize what is actually happening so we tend to get very grumbly. We often get caught in the blame game. The problem arises when you get stuck in blaming “him” on the way out and long after the marriage ends.
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How Knowing your Top 5 Values Can Help you Stabilize

However you initially cope with the separation from your spouse, you are much more emotionally vulnerable than you are likely to realize at first. It makes sense. You left your union to establish your own course ... It may take a while to understand that you need to protect your energy and your personal space in ways you might not have needed to when married. Knowing your Values helps clarify ... who you will let in and who may not pass this way again.
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When my Marriage was Done I Knew I’d have to Deal my Inner Loser

You know those not-so-little quirks, the ones others don’t necessarily notice, but blare like loud obnoxious horns in your psyche when you least expect it? ... I have historically deemed myself a LOSER. Yes, deep in my being the loser soundtrack is playing. When I realized my marriage was done, I knew I would have to deal with this debilitating thought-feeling.
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Looking for “Home” after Separation or Divorce

As with any significant change in life circumstances, when you leave your long-term relationship, you move through distinct stages on the road to reclamation and recovery... You may have to contend with different emotional challenges, depending on who did the leaving, but in the end it’s all the same.
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Companionship after Divorce – Who will you Rely on Now?

When you are out on your own and navigating the early stages life after divorce you'll likely wake up one day and realize that you don't have that ‘always there’ person. This can be even more significant if you are not close to your family. There are several areas of life impacted by this fact. Today I’m focusing on one, your social community, your tribe.
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When my Ex Met Someone New my Security felt Threatened – Yuck!

Just when I think I got this … When I spoke to my ex on the phone recently, he took the opportunity to tell me he’d met someone - just the week before. He was a little clumsy about how he told me, letting me know that it wouldn’t change anything for a while. Wouldn’t change anything for a while!? Fear! Aloneness! All that arose again.
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Where is He When You Need Him? Old Habits Die Hard

When you and your ex were a couple it was natural for some life tasks to be "assigned" to the person with the better skills in that area. It certainly makes life easier, but it also creates potential weakness in yourself over time. You become dependent on that person to handle that thing.
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